More Misunderstood Song Lyrics

When I was a kid and Wayne’s World was all the rage, one of my favorite bits they used to do was about misunderstood song lyrics.  The CCR picture above has probably my all time favorite.  I sing about the bathroom on the right every time I hear Bad Moon just to make myself chuckle.  I then went on to marry the KING of getting the words wrong.  Coincidence?

This summer I was fortunate enough to go camping with my family, college BFF (J) and her husband (S).  The topic came up around the campfire of how when the very popular song Cheerleader came out, (S) thought they were saying, “I think I found myself a jellybear.” We all agreed….that’s not even a thing.  I told the story about when we almost named our daughter Layla based almost entirely on Wilford’s (if you haven’t read my other posts regarding why I call my husband that…oh well) thinking the Eric Clapton song was called “HeyLove.”  And that he thought Van Halen was signing about Cannonballs not Panama.  On and on we laughed.

Today I woke up super early – hours before my alarm – and not feeling very well.  My ankle hurt a lot and I’ve weened myself off the hard pain killers so maybe that had something to do with it.  Wilford was still sound asleep, which I can openly admit, I was super jealous about.  As I’m tossing and turning, trying to get comfortable enough to drift back off, he’s next to me intermittently snoring and cutting the cheese.  Both at an impressive volume.  After an hour and a half of his symphony, I shook him awake and asked if he was supposed to be up and moving by now.  He said “yeah, probably” and then with his next breath IMMEDIATELY started sawing logs again.  Being the wonderful wife that I am, I nudged him and said, “By the way….your musical tops and bottoms are really on point this morning.”

Now we were in the darkness of the wee hours and I was waiting to see what he had for me next.  I wasn’t expecting the following exchange, but here it is:

(W) Hey….honey?

(Me) Yes dear?

(W) Did you know…….that every rose has it’s thorn?

(Me)  I’ve heard that somewhere before I think.

(W) Oh, okay….But did you know….that every night has it’s dawn?

(Me)  Um hmmm….sounds familiar.

(W) Alright…..Also….every player sings a sad, sad song.


(W) *singing off tune* EVERY PLAYER…

(Me)…Are you saying PLAYER?

(W) Yeah.

(Me) Like play on playa?

(W) No, like maybe he plays the harmonica in the band.

(Me) Wilford, it’s Cowboy.  It’s every COWBOY sings a sad, sad song.

(W) Are you sure about that?

(Me) I, as well as anyone has ever heard the song EVER, even once, is absolutely sure.  It’s the cowboy who sings the song.  THE COWBOY!


(Me) *sighs heavily*

(W) I win, player.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – I’m one lucky gal.  Sorry ladies, this cowboy is taken.  The line forms to the right….where the bathroom is also located.

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Hey, did you just break your ankle?

Did you just break your ankle?  Are you in bed, elevated, popping pain pills and googling things like “pictures of broken ankles,” or “how long until I can walk again,” and “ankle surgery stories.”

Stop it.

I’m serious.  Right now.  You are only going to make it worse.

I broke my leg and ankle on Thursday, September 8th during roller derby scrimmage.  I had to look up the exact date because my head is still a little scrambled and my concept of time is even worse than usual.  On the 9th, I went to a surgery center and they scheduled me for Monday the 12th.  The following Monday, I thought I was going to be able to drive my 3 kids to their 3 different schools.  I was so very wrong.  I made it, but in such pain (I didn’t take the meds because I was driving) that my oldest kid called my parents and asked them to please come over and help.

During the following week, when I again had to call on friends and family to get my children to school and back, I sunk in to a pretty horrible depression.  I felt like life was never going to be the same again and that I was going to be useless forever.  I hid in my room and cried.  No blogging, no lifting the weights I bought right after I came home from the ER – just resting, elevating, sobbing.

But guess what?  This Friday, my husband drove me to my post op doctor’s appointment.  It was painful for such a squeamish person to see her ankle looking like frankenstein and then have the staples removed.  I shed some more tears, lost 3 pounds of anxiety sweat weight and got a new purple cast.  My X-rays were incredibly cool with the plates and screws…plus everything is back where it’s supposed to be!  After the appointment, my husband took me out for breakfast and my leg survived being down the whole time.  My depression lingered, but I could feel myself actively fighting back against it.  A couple of my favorite derby teammates came over with liquor and laughter – my two favorite things!  I cried a few more times, but they totally understood….and that made life better.

This weekend was full of little victories.  Yesterday, I DID lift my new weights.  I worked out for about 20 minutes doing things my doctor told me I was fine to do.  When my toes turned into little sausages that matched my cast color, I stopped and put my ankle up.  I went downstairs by scooting on my butt and joined my family for pizza and movie night for the first time in forever.  AND – I went UP the stairs using my crutches.  I also walked through my gardens, watered a few things, and elevated my leg in the warm Fall sun.

So if you just broke something and are falling into the same in-horrible-pain, googling-stuff, thinking-you’ll-never-recover-funk – know this:

You are not alone and this is temporary.  Give yourself the time to heal.  Find a doctor and surgeon you trust and then listen to them.  Take time alone when you need it, but let your friends and family help.  Cry.  Laugh.  STOP reading online horror stories of all the things that can go wrong in the recovery process.

But I think most importantly – learn and grow from this sucky experience.  Find something constructive to do in your downtime.  Make sure when disaster strikes someone you love that you take them a meal for their freezer, a treat for that day, and spend time talking and listening.  Reach out to them because you remember what it felt like to be falling.

Second most importantly – seriously, stop googling stuff.  Unless it’s more of my blogs.  Then have at it.  You’ve got some time on your hands anyway, right?


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Let Me See Some ID

I’m still in bed with my ankle propped, trying to decide what to write about today.  If you have read anything I’ve written about the Facebook before, you should know there’s another rant brewing there.  I won’t launch into the whole thing, I’ll only mention my decision not to post anything about my current situation.  No selfies from the ER, or thumbs up pictures as they were wheeling me into surgery.  Not even a sad-faced closeup with #nomakeup.  Trust me when I tell you, I have a series of ADORABLE pictures involving my dogs snuggled up to my cast that would bring the house down, but I’ve refrained so far.

I’m doing this to see how many of my “friends” would still remember that I was hurt without me constantly reminding them with staged pictures and whiny updates polluting their newsfeeds.  I feel very fortunate being able to say that I’ve had a steady stream of friends (no quotations, see) send me well wishes.  I’ve even had a few of my favorites come and visit me.  They have kept me from falling into a complete state of depression and when this is all over with, I’m going to send them handwritten notes to tell them how much they mean to me.  Don’t get me wrong, I told them that when they were here…but I was also fairly medicated.  At some point, I’ll probably write a post for each of them – but right now I’m going to start with a great story involving today’s visitor.

A million years ago, at age 25, I started working at a police department.  It was there that I met Amy. (No, that’s not actually her name – but we went through an Amy Winehouse period together and so this alias feels right.)  Upon meeting her, I knew that we would one day be friends but that day would take some work getting to.  The tale of our first conversation has been told many times to many audiences…but I feel like it’s fodder for it’s own blog, so I’ll wait.  Let’s just say she didn’t like me immediately, but I grew on her.

Amy was, and still remains to be, one of the toughest women I’ve ever met in my life.  She had worked for the PD for YEARS – from a patrol officer on up the ranks to Sergeant.  When I met her, she was a detective.  I remember watching her work though the cameras in the interview rooms and being absolutely in awe of her ability to speak to people.  Amy always seemed to know when to go hard at a dirt-bag or appear sympathetic to get them to open up to her.  The soft way she spoke to children and terrified victims brought tears to my eyes on more than one occasion.  I admired her both on the clock, and afterwards – when she took off the uniform and was my friend.  I was going through a horrible period in my personal life and she was there for me every step of the way – knowing how to talk to me the way I needed, too.  She knew when I needed serious advice, but could also always make me laugh in the middle of what felt like my world crashing down.

Another important detail you need to know about Amy is that she is beautiful.  When I first met her, she was in her early 40s, but people mistook us for sisters all the time.  Oh, the smile that would spread across her face when she’d proclaim, “Sisters?  I’m old enough to be her mother!”  We usually made a scene when we went out together because we were pretty fun…or at least in our minds, anyway.  Amy got me started running and training for triathlons (ALSO another story there!) and we did our first 5K together in Seattle, circa 2008.  That’s where this event takes place.

Amy and I have a million funny stories of situations we have found ourselves in over the years.  Getting patrol cars stuck places, locking ourselves out of houses, being stuck in elevators, using cookies instead of spoons when eating pudding, picking each other up off of dance floors when a big move had gone awry – you know, the usual.  But of all our adventures, I find myself telling this one the most often as it can also serve as a cautionary tale for women ages 25-45.

We decided to hit the town and checkout the Seattle nightlife.  I put on a ridiculous pair of purple high heels – because that’s what you should wear to walk downtown the night before a race – and we were off.  The evening started innocently enough, as they always did, with a few drinks at a classy establishment near our hotel.  Soon we were bored with that whole scene and decided to wander around, almost as if we were looking for trouble.  We found it in the basement of some really rough looking Irish pub.  We had only taken two steps into the dark and noisy room but were already whispering to each other that this might have been a mistake.  Before we could make an exit move, a HUGE dude from the other side of the bar yells, “Hey!  Hey you two – stop right there.”

We froze as he started lumbering through the crowd towards us.  “Let me see some ID, right now!”

So Amy and I did what any normal woman would do in that situation.  We panicked but tried to play it cool. Fumbling through our purses, we nervously reverted to our normal dialogue for when we got carded (I was 30 at this point, Amy 48).  It was a high-pitched mix of, “Oh my!”  and “How flattering!” with some “He just wants a big tip later!” and a “He must card everyone that comes in!” sprinkled on top for good measure.  Well, I’m not sure which of these over-the-top exclamations pissed him off the most…what I do know is that he stopped short of us, turned around and headed back towards the bar.

Confused and still holding my license, I yelled after him, “Hey, I thought you needed our IDs?”

Without any hint of emotion, he shouted back, “Yeah.  That was before I saw you up close.”

Ladies, here is what you should take away from this –

  1. Everyone needs a BFF like Amy in their lives.
  2. Don’t break in new high heels the night before a run, no matter how bangin’ you think they are.
  3. Do not use the term bangin’.
  4. Keep your mouth shut and give the bouncer your ID.

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Things I Accomplished Today

Let’s see.  I managed a shower with my new fancy cast cover thingy.   (If you or someone you love very much breaks a bone, get them one of these.  For under $10 you give them the gift of hygiene.  I’m serious, get one right now.)  I got dressed after much trial and error in the “let’s see what fits over my massive foot” game.  Possibly while cursing, I did some of my husband’s laundry.  Oatmeal was made and consumed in the kitchen so as to avoid working my crutches with a molten-lava-hot bowl in my hands.  An icepack was placed lovingly on my splint, despite the fact the wrapping is so thick I don’t even know it’s there.  Doctor’s orders, you know.  I’m sure it’s helping?

I painted my fingernails purple.  Watched the second disk of Season 1 of Bob’s Burger my college BFF sent me.  This was especially awesome because I didn’t realize there were two disks and thought I’d already run out of episodes.  I sewed together a couch cushion my dog chewed for about the 19th time.  On a crafter’s high, I went on to stitch together a furry bathroom rug to a memory foam rug to form a SUPER RUG for me to stand on in front of my washer and dryer.  All that before noon!

I guess you could say I’m winning at the broken ankle game.  Obviously.

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My War in Iraq

I’ve started writing this story at least 8497 times in the last 12 years.  This is my 3rd attempt just this morning.  I’ve finally decided that I’m just going to jump in and start recording my thoughts, memories and stories as best I can and organize them properly later.

For years now, I have been telling my husband that I’d like to write about how the war in Iraq shaped not only the story of our lives, but those who are still closest to us.  He is humble.  And angry.  Plus a whole host of other emotions about the things he went through.  His response was that our experiences really weren’t unique or worth writing about.   I explained for the millionth time that I wasn’t talking about a documentary detailing just what his unit did during combat, but rather the personal stories that were involved with his fellow soldiers and their families.

I intend to experiment with different writing techniques in attempting to describe events and repercussions.  My hope is that collectively, they will help people gain a perspective they wouldn’t have had otherwise.  I feel like sometimes people and situations get lumped into categories (this is a story about combat, this is a story about the crumbling of personal relationships, this is a story about adjusting to life after war) that are too broad to be relatable.  I want to break them down to be personal in a way that helps people to truly understand the lasting effects that wars have.

I also hope that anyone who is involved with the war currently or is struggling to reconcile past experiences might find comfort knowing what others have gone through and how they came out the other side.  Not all of these stories have happy endings.  Also, many of these journeys aren’t over yet.

And now, with that longwinded preface,  I can finally get started….which might actually help close a chapter of my own life.

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When the Other Skate Drops

I had this plan.  I was going to get the kids back to school last week – the oldest one in 10th, middle kid in 4th and my baby…MY BABY… to Kindergarten.  I made it through all the stress of figuring out which new schools, supply shopping, registrations, orientations.  I WAS ALMOST THERE!  And once I dropped the little one for her first day on Friday, oh the things I was going to accomplish.  After a good cry, of course.

The housework – it was going to get done.  AWL of it.  But a little at a time, see?  I figured I’d spend however long it took to do all the laundry and then pick one room to really focus on cleaning until the whole place was sparkling.  On Wednesday and Thursday when the two boys were back in school, I got more done than you would even believe.  Area rugs were shampooed, every stitch of laundry washed, dried, sorted.  Pantry – scrubbed and reorganized!  Meals planned, dishes done, oh yes – the plan was off to a great start.

Arts – there was going to be time for projects now!  I was going to give myself an hour a day for my creative side.  Candles (I had orders to fill), window art, furniture refinishing.  Hell, I might even paint a picture for our house.  So in between my cleaning, I got my wax orders made and started planning projects using some reclaimed wood I came across.  Check.

Fitness – beyond the running I’ve been doing and derby, I was going to join the local gym  on Friday. I took the summer off from lifting because my old place was now 45 minutes away and the fitness centers around here have no child care.  I couldn’t WEIGHT (oh, my sides) to get back into the swing of things, get stronger and lose a few sneaky summer pounds.

Reading – I have so many books to get caught up on.  I’ve started at least 3 different ones that I need to finish because they are great, I just haven’t had a chance.  An hour a day to expand my mind.  That would be doable with ALL MY TIME.

Writing – oh, the blogging I was going to do with these magical 6 hours.  Hell, I might even start in on the two book ideas I’ve had swirling around in my head for I don’t know how long.  Fine, you got me.  I had days last week and I didn’t get around to that part.  But I promised myself I would fix that on Monday.

Then do you know what happened Thursday night at roller derby scrimmage?  I became a statistic.  I took a strange fall on an ankle I sprained back in May and I broke that bitch in two places.  I’ll save the gory details of the ER trip, but let’s just say I was unable to take my beautiful little girl to her first day of Kindergarten on Friday and I didn’t do any of the other things on my list because I had surgery yesterday to put my ankle back together with plates and pins.

So here I am, laying in bed with my ankle propped, hoped up on pain meds and feeling sorry for myself.  I’m not supposed to do anything physically taxing for at least a week after surgery…and even when I am cleared for more – what exactly am I going to do?  I mean other than wallowing in self pity?  I guess get caught up on the blogging and reading?  Which would be better than what I have been doing….watching crappy shows on DVD because we don’t have high enough bandwidth to stream stuff.  And binge eating.

This was not part of the plan.


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I Have A Really Good Big Brother


My brother is 7 years older than me. Yet, despite the age gap, we were ridiculously close from time I turned 15 and he taught me how to drive a stick shift, until he at 30, married his second wife and she turned out to be quite jealous of our relationship. I have a series of funny stories that I hope to write about eventually, but today when I was at Office Depot, a memory hit me so hard that I stopped in the middle of the aisle and had a good laugh. It also made me momentarily want some licorice. Here is said story:

My brother got married for the first time in 1998. I cried in my periwinkle blue bridesmaid dress….both because she was a terrible person and it was an awful dress.  With terrible matching shoes.  Wife 1 left him in 2000, which coincidentally was the same year I married my first husband. (My parents must be so proud.)  I imagine my bro (let’s call him Frank.) felt much the same way I did watching me take the vow, knowing I was making a huge mistake. At least he was in a nice tux, though. Believe me when I tell you there are a TON of amusing antidotes that happened during and in between all of those events, but let’s just flash forward. I got married in August of 2000, moved out of our house together and in with Frank in December of 2000. I found out I was pregnant the day after Mother’s Day in 2001. It’s probably obvious that it wasn’t my ex-husbands, ya?

Okay, so that sets the stage. I had put off filing for divorce for as it all seemed really complicated. Also, embarrassing. Like super, SUPER mortifying. Frank had finally had enough of my procrastinating and promised he would help me with the paperwork. It would be easy for him, see, because he had just filled out his own less than a year prior. We’d go to Office Depot and pick up everything I would need.

We went to the paperwork section – my brother leading the way for his poor, knocked up sister. And when we found what we were looking for, I about wet my pants cry-laughing. Because on the cover of the box – I kid you not – was a heart-shaped picture of a lovely older couple looking adoringly at each other. That had been torn in half. Really? I mean…..really?

“Do you think this comes with a shaker of salt to be poured directed into my wounds?” I asked Frank.

“At least she’s not pregnant. Just pick it up and let’s go. I need an office sized container of red vines.” More inappropriate comments and snorting as we made our way up to the checkout. We were the only customers in the store and the clerk looked bored. I gently set down my paperwork and Frank thumped down his tub of candy.

“Did you guys find everything okay?” the clerk asked.

“Uh….yes, thanks,” I mumbled, trying to avoid eye contact. The guy’s eyes went from our purchase, back and forth between Frank and me, then landed on my giant belly. “Do you need anything else tonight?”

“Do you sell liquor?” Frank asked, tone completely serious.




“Then I guess we’re good,” said my brother, cracking open the giant container and cramming 3 red vines in at a time.

I suppose it’s good I can laugh about that now. Because you know what they say; laughter is the best medicine. Second best? Red vines.

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